Should you ever decide to visit a Career Coach, one of the most likely questions that they will get you to answer is along the lines of:
If you were on your deathbed, what things would you regret doing or not doing the most?
Morbid? Maybe. However, the point is a pertinent one. You never know when your time is going to be up. I am currently reading a biography on Steve Jobs. I have gleaned a few things from this:
a) he was an absolute genius when it came to product design and marketing
b) he was (probably) an absolute a**hole to work with
c) he was a person deeply connected to himself and his passions and in that sense, he ALWAYS remained true to himself
You get a sense from reading it, that he almost knew on some level that he would die young and that’s what spurred him on to achieving the amazing amount that he did in his lifetime.
I started thinking about this question the other day whilst having dinner with a friend who asked me:
If you knew that you were going to die in a year’s time, is there anything that you would regret now?
I thought about it and I realised that the answer was no. It became clear to me that life is not necessarily about achieving all of your dreams instantly but about taking active steps towards the achievement of those dreams. And for the first time in my life, I am doing that and that alone was reason enough for me to have no regrets.
I have business ideas that excite me and I’m doing it on my own terms; I’m actually starting to plan and write the novel I’ve been going on about for over two years, I’ve found someone that loves me for exactly who I am and supports me in whatever I want to do.
Have I achieved real success in any of the above? By society’s standards, probably not. I have one business on the cusp of make or break and an embryonic idea that I’m very excited about in the pipeline (money is not flowing my way and Apple I ain’t!), an as yet unfinished novel that may never be published and I am not married…….
Do I care? Gloriously no! All I have to do is take steps day-by-day to get there. In the meantime, buckle down, enjoy the ride and cut my spending (I realise I really do not need as much money or things as I thought – even my poor long suffering car has now gone!) So no, I don’t know what next month holds, let alone six months or a year away. Instead of me finding it terrifying, to my surprise, I’m beginning to enjoy the ride.
When I talk, I talk with passion and excitement now because every single thing I’m choosing to do challenges me and brings me out of my comfort zone. A rut that I had been in for such a very long time.
Is it hard changing your life? Yes. Do you ever feel like giving up? Yes. Does life get you down? Yes. Is it worth it? Most definitely.
Below is one of my favourite quotes from the video I turn to when I want an injection of inspiration – Dream Motivational Video
For people running towards their dreams, life has a special kind of meaning
It’s true. So don’t regret it. You may not want to run but just take one step, then another, then another towards what you believe and your dreams. Then, when you’re ready, run like hell.